Before becoming a mom, I had so many off the wall things to talk about. What was I going to do on a Friday night? Who would I be hanging out with? I would talk about what somebody was wearing or so forth. Now, my life has changed a lot! Just like everyone else I am sure. I can talk all day about Sprout but besides that there isn't much for me to chat about.
One thing I talk about in everyday conversation with my fiancée about is poop! Gag! I never talked about this before. It was something I didn't want to discuss. However, when you are a mom, you may choose to talk about how frequent your child goes and how often you need to change their diaper. Does this happen to anyone else?
Most of my day is spent reading stories, singing kiddie songs and building blocks that seem to always get knocked down. That's right my 10 month old doesn't want mommy to play with her blocks, so than I tickle her instead. Now that she is getting into everything and we are trying to keep her from getting her "No" has become a huge part of my vocabulary and trust me it is so hard for me to say. She looks at me with those big blue eyes and smiles and I melt. This is going to be bad, that little girl has me wrapped around her finger but that's okay.
Other things I end up talking about are food choices for Sprout, letting the dog in and out and sometimes who is doing what on facebook. We also say our prayers a lot and Sprout now claps at the end of prayers. It is rather cute and I hope she keeps the excitement of praying up.
Just wondering, what all things do you say a lot in your day to your children? Is there one particular phrase or are there many? Or I would love to hear the funny things your children are saying!
Here's to another week, they seem to go by too quickly now.
Sometimes I lose myself. I find myself stuck. I look in the mirror and suddenly I am filled with disgust. Why? I really do want to love myself. I somehow see every imperfection, and rarely do I focus on the positive when it comes to myself. Why do I do this to myself. I know God created me in his own image. I know that I am wonderfully and fearfully made. However, when I look in the mirror all I see is a nose that is too large, a stomach that isn't flat and so much more. Why are these things even important? I should be really proud of myself instead. I am the thinnest I have been in five years. My stretch marks are signs that I carried my child with my body. My nose is similar to my Dads. Shouldn't that make me proud?
We as a society are consumed with our appearance. Yes, it is nice too look great but shouldn't we care more about a person's insides. Shouldn't it matter how you treat others, your work ethnic or if you offer to help those in need. It should matter but our perception is altered. From a young age we are told as children watch what you eat. We are told that a small pimple is horrible. We also compare ourselves to others. Well she is thinner. She has better skin or every guy thinks she is pretty. Why, do we do this to ourselves. That girl could be starving herself. She could be doing the wrong kinds of things for attention but yet we want to be just like her. Why can't we be satisfied with who we are? Is it because every time we see a magazine, it is condemning the way a celebrity looks if she or he gains five pounds? Is it because we think we need to all look the same? How boring, would it be if we all looked exactly the same?
Let me tell you, you are beautiful! You are special and unique. You are one of a kind. There is no person exactly just like you. Even if you are an identical twin, you like different things or your emotions are different. We should celebrate that we are different. As a mom, I have to start watching what I say. I don't want my daughter to hear me complaining about my appearance. I don't want her to hear me say I am fat. I want her to be confident. I want her to love her blue eyes, the dimple in her chin and her super long eyelashes. I want her to celebrate that she is unique and she is loved for being exactly her.
We need to lift each other up. Instead of talking about how bad a person looks, I want you to find something good about them. Maybe the way their freckles stand out, or how pretty their hair is. We are all fighting a battle. Let's not cause more harm to each other and to ourselves. Let's love each other! I challenge you to look in the mirror and find something you love about your appearance. When you are feeling down about yourself think about that thing.
In the Bible Psalms 139:14 says " I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well."
I have had so many people ask me why are you still breastfeeding? My first thought is because my child needs milk! If you aren't breastfeeding your child normally you would formula feed your child until they were a year old. So why would I stop breastfeeding Sprout now and switch her to formula which would potentially upset her stomach. I wouldn't. Let me start by saying I am thankful there are mothers that formula feed their children and for those that breastfeed theirs as well. We are all trying to do our best. Our children are what is important here, not our thoughts or opinions or even those judging looks as I try to feed my child in public.
Sprout doesn't eat with a cover over her head. I don't so why should she. Yes, I try to be discreet. I normally go the car or go some where that doesn't have a lot of people around just because I want to feed my child and really do not want to get in to it with others. I have fed her in public before. If she is hungry, I will feed her. Just as if you were hungry, I would want you to eat and not have to wait.
Besides the fact that Sprout needs milk it is also a comfort to her. If she isn't feeling well, or is upset then she may comfort feed. You know what that is okay. I want my child to feel safe. I want her to know I am there for her. Just as when she cries, I go to her. I want her to have my trust and know that mommy would not leave her. I don't like crying, or sobbing and not having anyone comfort me or ask me what is wrong so I can imagine it is the same for her.
It is also way easier for me to breastfeed. I just have to lift up my shirt and her milk is ready. At 4 am when she wakes up hungry, I don't have to go and fix a bottle and make sure the temperature is just right. It is already prepared. A bonus for me because I get to go back to sleep sooner and I don't have extra dishes to wash.
People have also asked me "Why don't you pump?" I have pumped. I did everyday for the first couple months after Sprout was born, simply because other people wanted to feed her. I have respect for every mother that pumps! It was hard for me, I barely pumped anything and I know that I was producing so much more. The pump and I were just not a fit. All the wires had to be cleaned and I really wasn't going anywhere. People really weren't coming to see us that much. So now I pump when it is a necessity. If I have to have a lumbar puncture for my IIH, or if there is any reason I won't be around Sprout. Besides, that I am always with her, so her milk is always there. I know people want to feed her but now she is bigger and they can give her baby food and let her sling it on them!
When will I stop breastfeeding? I honestly don't know. At first I just wanted to make it to 6 months and now I am hoping for a year. But when a year comes, I am not just going stop. If she isn't ready to be weaned and my supply is still up, I will keep feeding her. I personally don't plan on doing it longer than two years old but we will see what the future holds.
I am so thankful for all of you Mothers out there. Keep up the good work. Whether you are breastfeeding, formula feeding or child has moved on to regular milk, you are doing great. You have made it this far. Each day should be celebrated because motherhood can be hard. So don't give up. Just keep smiling and look at your little one and let them know you love them.
Wishing you all a wonderful week!
Megan, a stay home mom who wants to try new products and let you know what I think of them!